You have a new baby! This means that your family has a whole new shape. Whether its your first child or your fourth, every child brings a change into your world and your family. The arrival of a new baby brings excitement, joy, sleepless nights, fear, love and everything between, into your world. Its gonna be a wild ride, but the best ride of your life.
You now need to figure out what your family is like with one more member. This member is as important as all the rest of you. Every baby is life-changing. It’s easy to get overwhelmed, but here are a few things that are good to remember when your family is growing.
1. Calm down.
Calm down! take a deep breath, you’ve got this. Whatever needs to be done, it can wait, just take care of your baby. Even though it might be overwhelming and you don’t know what your baby is trying to tell you. When you’re calm, it’ll be easier for you to listen and observe, to see what your baby needs.
And that goes with the next point: trust. trust that you know your baby. Even when your baby is a few hours old, you are the only person in the world that has known your baby for that long. All the experience of everyone around you, is with other babies. You know your baby and you need to trust that you know your baby.
When you trust that you know your baby, you also need to respect your baby. If your baby is in need of a day at home, and the whole family has planned a day at the park, mom might need to stay at home with the baby, while dad goes to the park. If your baby’s tired you need to provide at quiet place from them to rest. Respect your baby as a person, as a full member of your family.
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4. Say no
Knowing your baby also means that you know when to say no. And trust me you will need to say no. Say no on behalf of you, and on behalf of your baby. If you can tell that now it’s enough for you baby, you need to say no! No grandparent/aunt/uncle need to hold your baby, if your baby’s tired.
Except how things are, and adjust. You’ve dreamed, had talks with your friends, and planned everything about this baby. Now its time to look at the baby that actually came to you, and not the one your dreamed of. Some babies sleep 22 hours a day in the beginning, others dont. Some babies cry ALL the time, and others dont. Adjust your plans to make room for your new baby.
5. Say YES, when its right.
Many wonderful people in your life will offer to help. Remember to take them up on that! Can they bring food over? Can they do a quick walk through your house with a vacuum? Can they clean your bathroom/kitchen/whatever? Anything that can take the stress of you so that you can recover and concentrate on your new family.
6. Grand tour
When ever we have brought a baby home we have given them a tour of the house, explaining whats what. We have been to all rooms to make sure that the baby knows their home. This might seem like overkill, I mean, that baby is brand new, and not even able to see 3 feet infront of their face. I hear you, but I do believe that it has been good for our babies that they have known the smells and feel of every room in the house. To me, it goes back to respect. I want my baby to know their home.
While its great to show baby off to everyone you know, make sure that you spend time alone in your new family. Mom, dad, baby and maybe older siblings, you all need time to find your places in the new family structure. Remember that while the new baby is just as important as any other member, they are not MORE important. You need to create a structure for family night so that everyone has a good time.
8. Camera ready
You will NEVER be able to take TOO many pictures of those first days. I know its a cliche, but time really does go by SO fast. While its good to be in the moment and enjoy it, I do love having those photos to remember this amazing start of a new baby.
When ever possible, REST. Take a nap, put your feet up, snuggle up in bed with your baby. Find the time to rest, leave everything else for a while. It will be there when you wake up again and the world starts spinning again.
This is the hardest time. Everything gets turned upside down and its all crazy. But all you can do is enjoy this time. It is truely magical to be able to start a new life like this and witness all of those firsts. Enjoy, because before you know it its all gone and baby is a toddler, with all of the joys that will bring you.
Bonus tip for siblings:
When you bring a baby home to older siblings we’ve always found a special toy from the baby to the older siblings. Its been small things but something that they really wanted. That way, they have had a toy to play with when we’ve been busy with the baby. We’ve found it to be a great way to keep the kids positive towards the new baby. While its no where near all weve done to keep siblings happy in transition time, its been a great start.
These are our top tips for bringing a baby home. Are you a parent? what’s your best tips for bringing a baby home?
take care until next time
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